Masturbation is a sensitive topic that many Christians struggle with. Is masturbation a sin? What does the Bible really say?
These are common and important questions to address. There’s a lot of confusion around whether masturbation is right or wrong for a Christian.
In this blog post, I’ll dive into God’s Word to understand what the Bible says about position on masturbation.
I’ll look at principles for sexual purity, and wisdom for singles and married folks, as well as steps for gaining self-control and freedom from any temptations.
The Bible And Masturbation
It’s important to first understand that the Bible does not directly mention the word “masturbation”.
However, there are pointers throughout Scripture about God’s purpose for sexuality that can guide us on this issue.
So we can look to Bible verses about sexuality to understand whether masturbation is a sin.
Masturbation Can Become an Idol
Masturbation itself is not explicitly called out as a sin, but the heart’s motivation and thought patterns surrounding it can be sinful.
If masturbation becomes a person’s main coping mechanism for stress or boredom, it crosses the line into idolatry.
1 Corinthians 6:12 warns against being “mastered by anything.” The word “masturbation” indicates that masturbating can end up mastering you through addictive behavior patterns.
This sexual behavior can easily become a substitute for intimacy with God. It provides instant gratification and stress relief while neglecting your relationship with Jesus.
“I am the Lord your God…You shall have no other gods before me.”
Exodus 20:2-3 (ESV)
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So the first crucial question is: Has masturbation become an idol that is controlling you?
Masturbation Involves Lust
What about the thought patterns behind masturbation? Jesus taught that lustful thoughts are sinful, even if physical actions don’t follow:
“But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
Matthew 5:28 (NIV)
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Lust is a strong sexual desire outside God’s boundary of marriage. Masturbation always involves fantasy and lustful thinking.
People usually imagine or lust after other people to whom they’re not married. This goes against Jesus’ call for purity of heart and mind.
Additionally, masturbation leads many people to view pornography. Porn trains minds over time to be dissatisfied with reality. It twists perceptions of healthy sexuality, intimacy, and attraction.
So a second key question is: Does your mind stay pure, or do you indulge in lustful thoughts and porn?
Masturbation Lacks Self-Control
Self-control is a fruit of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). God wants His children to have self-mastery and not to be slaves to sensual cravings.
Frequent masturbation reveals a lack of self-control. As a habit-forming behavior, masturbation tempts many beyond reasonable moderation. This reveals spiritual immaturity.
Paul challenged early believers to avoid lack of self-control, which was common in pagan culture:
“So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh…The acts of the flesh are obvious: …lack of self-control…” (Galatians 5:16-21)
So we must ask: Does masturbation reveal slavery to cravings versus responsible self-management?
Marriage, Not Masturbation
Scripture presents marriage as the only godly outlet for sexual desire. The Bible does not present masturbation as an alternative solution.
Paul encouraged unmarried believers to marry to avoid improper sexual desire:
“But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”
1 Corinthians 7:9 (NIV)
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Masturbation will not completely satisfy your sexual desire. It may provide short-term relief, but it will leave a deep craving for more.
God intended physical union through marriage only. Masturbation short-circuits God’s intended process for meeting sexual needs. It satiates your sexual desire while avoiding marriage’s covenant commitment.
Frequent masturbation dulls the motivation for marriage. It meets immediate needs while foregoing God’s long-term plan for thriving sexuality.
Does masturbation reveal an avoidance of marriage and long-term sexual sanctification?
Resisting Temptation Through Christ
To recap, masturbation itself is not overtly called evil. But the following make it sinful:
- When masturbation becomes an idol for coping with challenges
- When your mind dwells on sexual fantasy and lust
- When there’s a lack of self-control because of addiction
- When substituting masturbation for God’s design in marriage
So what steps can you take if any of the above apply?
- First, if you’ve trusted in Christ, your identity is now in Him. You are completely loved and made clean by Jesus’ death for sins (Colossians 1:22). Bring feelings of guilt and shame to God, receive His forgiveness, and then move forward in freedom.
- Second, avoid condemnation but invite God’s conviction. God convicts us of sin gently and offers mercy and grace to overcome (Hebrews 4:16). He wants us to live in alignment with our new identities as saints, not sinners. Confess ways you’ve fallen short to Him, then ask the Holy Spirit for strength to align your behavior with your faith.
- Third, soak in Scripture and allow God’s word to renew your mind (Romans 12:2). Biblical wisdom reorients emotions and renews the mind to desire holiness.
- Fourth, reject sensual lies and speak spiritual truth. When tempted, quote Scriptures about your true identity, God’s goodness, and His superior promises. Pray out loud against masturbation’s false promises and ask for a revelation of God’s truth. Ask the Holy Spirit for self-control and denounce the desires of the flesh (Romans 13:14).
- Fifth, nurture intimacy with God, not imaginary substitutes. Draw near to Jesus (James 4:8). Masturbation uses your God-given craving for intimacy and twists it into a counterfeit. Your spirit yearns to get closer to God, not to flee from Him. Enjoy a real relationship with God, not imitation intimacy.
Key Takeaways: Is Masturbation a Sin?
- The Bible does not directly label masturbation as sinful. Principles about sexual ethics provide guidance.
- Scripture cautions against becoming enslaved and idolizing masturbation.
- Masturbation involves lust, sexual impurity, and fantasy. This violates Jesus’ teachings.
- Frequent masturbation contradicts the Holy Spirit’s fruit of self-control.
- It satisfies legitimate desires in illegitimate ways, avoiding God’s design for marriage.
- Believers struggling with masturbation need God’s grace, conviction, truth, and intimacy with Christ to walk in sexual purity.
The heart matters most. We all stumble, but Jesus can consistently renew your mind. Are you open to God reviving self-control and re-channeling intimacy cravings through Spirit-led disciplines?
God patiently stands ready to lead you into alignment with your position as His beloved child. You can confidently draw near to His throne of mercy and grace in your time of need (Hebrews 4:16).
He will supply what you lack – you only need to surrender in dependent trust, refuse condemnation, and embrace intimacy with God through Christ.
There is no struggle too challenging, or thirst too deep. His love and power will satisfy those longing to glorify God with their bodies (1 Corinthians 6:20).
Conclusion
Scripture provides guiding principles, more than direct commands, regarding masturbation. As part of God’s design for sexuality, our motivation and life patterns matter greatly.
By applying Biblical truth under the Holy Spirit’s guidance, you’ll gain wisdom in navigating this sensitive topic. May we all extend and receive abundant grace on the journey toward purity.
Jesus stands ready to free all who turn to Him in dependent trust, regardless of their past. His mercy cleanses masturbation’s guilt and His Spirit empowers you with self-control.
Will you receive His help to walk in sexual integrity that honors Him?
Frequently Asked Questions
Q. Isn’t it unhealthy to entirely repress sexual desires?
A. No. 1 Thessalonians 4:4-5 challenges believers to master their own bodies in holiness and honor. A transformed mind will wisely steward sexuality for God’s glory.
Q. What if masturbation helps me avoid sexual sin in dating or marriage?
A. This argument acknowledges that masturbation is the “lesser” of two evils. However, the Bible calls believers to avoid all sexual immorality through self-control (Galatians 5:16-24).
God makes faithful and merciful provisions so you can walk in alignment with His will (1 Corinthians 10:13). He wants you to recognize masturbation as part of a deeper heart issue. He will then graciously transform you as you repent.
Q. What practical steps help to get freedom from masturbation?
A. Here are a few effective tactics:
- Confess and renounce past sexual sins or occult ties. Receive God’s forgiveness (1 John 1:9).
- Ask God to reveal emotional wounds or lies behind masturbation. Receive Christ’s healing.
- Block access points: Internet controls, avoid tempting situations.
- Meditate on Scripture. Speak it out loud when you’re tempted.
- Engage in prayer, fasting, accountability, and serving others.
- If married, nurture an intimate friendship and sexual fulfillment with your spouse.
Q. How can masturbation impact my relationship with God?
A. Masturbation gives an illusion of satisfaction. It temporarily relieves cravings for sexual stimulus and intimacy while avoiding the vulnerability required for an actual relationship.
In the process, it can quench your spiritual hunger that finds its fulfillment in God. It substitutes feeling good for seeking God and trains us to solve problems independently of Him.
It attempts to meet a spiritual need – for wholeness and intimate connection – in a detached sensual way.
Over time this distorts perception, dulling sensitivity to recognize and receive God’s intimate presence. As an idol, it postpones dealing with emotional and spiritual interior issues that require painful growth through God’s sanctifying grace. It promises a false freedom but leads to deeper slavery.
In contrast, fasting from masturbation provides an opportunity for deeper intimacy with Christ as the true Lover of our souls. As you turn from the false lover of self-gratification, your spiritual eyes open to see and connect with God in fuller dimensions.
You relinquish counterfeit comforts and discover the superior pleasure of adoring and enjoying our Creator.
